According to Freud, we are born with our Id. The id is an important part of our personality because as newborns, it allows us to get our basic needs met. Freud believed that the id is based on our pleasure principle. In other words, the id wants whatever feels good at the time, with no consideration for the reality of the situation. When a child is hungry, the id wants food, and therefore the child cries. When the child needs to be changed, the id cries. When the child is uncomfortable, in pain, too hot, too cold, or just wants attention, the id speaks up until his or her needs are met.
The id doesn't care about reality, about the needs of anyone else, only its own satisfaction. If you think about it, babies are not real considerate of their parents' wishes. They have no care for time, whether their parents are sleeping, relaxing, eating dinner, or bathing. When the id wants something, nothing else is important.
Within the next three years, as the child interacts more and more with the world, the second part of the personality begins to develop. Freud called this part the Ego. The ego is based on the reality principle. The ego understands that other people have needs and desires and that sometimes being impulsive or selfish can hurt us in the long run. Its the ego's job to meet the needs of the id, while taking into consideration the reality of the situation.
By the age of five, or the end of the phallic stage of development, the Superego develops. The Superego is the moral part of us and develops due to the moral and ethical restraints placed on us by our caregivers. Many equate the superego with the conscience as it dictates our belief of right and wrong.
In a healthy person, according to Freud, the ego is the strongest so that it can satisfy the needs of the id, not upset the superego, and still take into consideration the reality of every situation. Not an easy job by any means, but if the id gets too strong, impulses and self gratification take over the person's life. If the superego becomes to strong, the person would be driven by rigid morals, would be judgmental and unbending in his or her interactions with the world.
Sunday, June 14, 2009
Friday, June 12, 2009
H1N1??
just two days back i fell sick...
well it all began with my sore throat!
it was so irritating as i culdnt even eat or drink properly! its wa soo0o0 painful! and den came d damn flu!!! sneezing and sneezin non-stop!....der came the combination...d damn cough! and i lost my voice! i sounded like sum dinasour!!! lol...
due to all dese plus sum extra stress....fever came! 38.9! my mum n sis told me tt i mite have gotten swine flu!!! i was tinkin in my heart, stop cursing me la!!! haix...den sum hw mum gave me d medication at hme n wasted one day...i didn get cured! my fever didn go dwn....
n den finally mum decided to bring me to the clinic....wen we wen der, i got d shock of my life!! we saw tis young lady wearing the face mask, holding sum papers and was on the fone crying...n she der came d ambulance and d medics brought her... mum wen to ask d nurse wat happen and he said, she had fever and wen to overseas...to HONG KONG!!!!
i got so freaked out mann! my mum wen to take d que no and sat dwn...d nurse came n took my temp n said,"oh dear, ur fever is so high!" i was tinking..."GOVINDA"!!!....den he asked me if i had flu, cough, sore throat and muscle pain...these are d symptoms for siwne flu!!! i said yes for all exlcudin the muscle pain n tank god i didn go overseas and tt nurse had to make me wear tt damn mask!!!
damn embarrassing! upon seeing me wearing the mask, a lady who was sitting beside me, got off n stood outside the clinic...she laughed and said, "sry la, i very scared le" i was tinking! damn dese sporeans! dnt hv to be kiasu until like tis!! argh! den finally i went to see d doc...he was so rude! he didn communicate wit my mum properly and wen mum asked abt d medication n requested for a medication, he just" i alrdy told d nurse, u go outside and check...u not happy, u let d nurse knw" like wat the hell la!...
oh btw, tt wasnt d same doc i always see....my family doc wasnt der, so tis was tis temporary doc...so yea, wen out took d medication n went home!! terrible day! i seriously feel like sueing the doc! argh!
well it all began with my sore throat!
it was so irritating as i culdnt even eat or drink properly! its wa soo0o0 painful! and den came d damn flu!!! sneezing and sneezin non-stop!....der came the combination...d damn cough! and i lost my voice! i sounded like sum dinasour!!! lol...
due to all dese plus sum extra stress....fever came! 38.9! my mum n sis told me tt i mite have gotten swine flu!!! i was tinkin in my heart, stop cursing me la!!! haix...den sum hw mum gave me d medication at hme n wasted one day...i didn get cured! my fever didn go dwn....
n den finally mum decided to bring me to the clinic....wen we wen der, i got d shock of my life!! we saw tis young lady wearing the face mask, holding sum papers and was on the fone crying...n she der came d ambulance and d medics brought her... mum wen to ask d nurse wat happen and he said, she had fever and wen to overseas...to HONG KONG!!!!
i got so freaked out mann! my mum wen to take d que no and sat dwn...d nurse came n took my temp n said,"oh dear, ur fever is so high!" i was tinking..."GOVINDA"!!!....den he asked me if i had flu, cough, sore throat and muscle pain...these are d symptoms for siwne flu!!! i said yes for all exlcudin the muscle pain n tank god i didn go overseas and tt nurse had to make me wear tt damn mask!!!
damn embarrassing! upon seeing me wearing the mask, a lady who was sitting beside me, got off n stood outside the clinic...she laughed and said, "sry la, i very scared le" i was tinking! damn dese sporeans! dnt hv to be kiasu until like tis!! argh! den finally i went to see d doc...he was so rude! he didn communicate wit my mum properly and wen mum asked abt d medication n requested for a medication, he just" i alrdy told d nurse, u go outside and check...u not happy, u let d nurse knw" like wat the hell la!...
oh btw, tt wasnt d same doc i always see....my family doc wasnt der, so tis was tis temporary doc...so yea, wen out took d medication n went home!! terrible day! i seriously feel like sueing the doc! argh!
Saturday, June 6, 2009
sighz :(
back afta a long break...
a long bad break...!!
so many things has happened in tis break....
so much fites between me and him! it seems like its my fault for all this to happen! but wen i tink thru it thoroughly, i sumtimes wonder if it is reeli my fault??? he did things to take revenge on which hurts so badly! n even made me suspect him! i mean who wuldnt if dey were in my situation...
it seems like he has lost interest in me! he wasnt like tis at d beginning! he was sum1 who doesnt like me getting hurt, but now, he is doing tt so many times! told him so many times tt if he wants to carry on, wit sum1 else....let it be....but he claims tt he still loves me....den y must he hurt me so badly! his actions....his words are killing me! he wen out wit his godsis without even telln me! he did it, coz once i did d same....but i wen out wit a grp....he wen alone wit her....y
?!!
im like so lost! i duno wat to do! i duno if tis would carry on! no one is helping me! no one can help me! every min, every sec i feel like he's cheating me! i mean all guys, or maybe most guys wuld say no....but at d back u wun knw wat are dey doing??!! i reeli feel like ending everything! its all my fault! i shld have tot wisely!
i deserve to be treated like tis! y dun u juz kill me instead of torturing me like tis!
he went for chalet! i culdnt slp d whole nite, wonder whr is he n wat he's doing! d fear was so great tt i kept shivering nt tokin to myself! wat mistake did i do tt i hv to sit one corner and cry every single day, tolerating his hurts! SHE told me, dnt rush....sit dwn n tink properly! duno whr i kept my brains!
im the reason for my mistakes! as punishment, i deserve all this hurt and tears!
going off with confusions.....
:(
will be back
a long bad break...!!
so many things has happened in tis break....
so much fites between me and him! it seems like its my fault for all this to happen! but wen i tink thru it thoroughly, i sumtimes wonder if it is reeli my fault??? he did things to take revenge on which hurts so badly! n even made me suspect him! i mean who wuldnt if dey were in my situation...
it seems like he has lost interest in me! he wasnt like tis at d beginning! he was sum1 who doesnt like me getting hurt, but now, he is doing tt so many times! told him so many times tt if he wants to carry on, wit sum1 else....let it be....but he claims tt he still loves me....den y must he hurt me so badly! his actions....his words are killing me! he wen out wit his godsis without even telln me! he did it, coz once i did d same....but i wen out wit a grp....he wen alone wit her....y
?!!
im like so lost! i duno wat to do! i duno if tis would carry on! no one is helping me! no one can help me! every min, every sec i feel like he's cheating me! i mean all guys, or maybe most guys wuld say no....but at d back u wun knw wat are dey doing??!! i reeli feel like ending everything! its all my fault! i shld have tot wisely!
i deserve to be treated like tis! y dun u juz kill me instead of torturing me like tis!
he went for chalet! i culdnt slp d whole nite, wonder whr is he n wat he's doing! d fear was so great tt i kept shivering nt tokin to myself! wat mistake did i do tt i hv to sit one corner and cry every single day, tolerating his hurts! SHE told me, dnt rush....sit dwn n tink properly! duno whr i kept my brains!
im the reason for my mistakes! as punishment, i deserve all this hurt and tears!
going off with confusions.....
:(
will be back
Thursday, May 7, 2009
Life . . .
When we are born and when we die its ntn so great compared to living the life!
Each human has fear in them, the four Fs. Family, Finance, Future & Fitness,
Family :
what are the fears can one have in a family? parents will have the fear of bringing up their kids, will they go in a wrong path? will dey be fulfiling? and many questions will be running in deir mind!
the children will have fears such as, exams! fear of failure during schoolings days....fear of rejection during datings and work interviews and many more....dey most fear of getting betrayed, fear of being taken advantage of and fear of not being accpeted in the society or the particular grp of frens they want to be....
Finance:
questions like....how am i gona save my money? where will i save my money? when or how will i go bankrupt? how to be spend money wisely? who will i entrust my money to? how am i gona earn money? and we can continue askin so many questions to ourselves....
Fitness:
1st was SARS, den on to BIRD FLU and now SWINE FLU! how are we to lead a healthy life till d end if such new sickness arises? common old age sickness such as, heart attacks, diabetes, high blood pressure....how to prevent from getting them or how to cure em??
Future:
this is the part where all of us are real afraid of....sum would say, "future will come on its own, give priority to the present 1st, settle issues in the present and then worry abt the future". but isnt it beta if we prepare for the future now and be prepared for the worst case scenarios???
So u see, we dont have any fears or worries wen we are born and wen we are dead! its the in between that is a challenge! life is short, really very short! live it well, live it right!
Each human has fear in them, the four Fs. Family, Finance, Future & Fitness,
Family :
what are the fears can one have in a family? parents will have the fear of bringing up their kids, will they go in a wrong path? will dey be fulfiling? and many questions will be running in deir mind!
the children will have fears such as, exams! fear of failure during schoolings days....fear of rejection during datings and work interviews and many more....dey most fear of getting betrayed, fear of being taken advantage of and fear of not being accpeted in the society or the particular grp of frens they want to be....
Finance:
questions like....how am i gona save my money? where will i save my money? when or how will i go bankrupt? how to be spend money wisely? who will i entrust my money to? how am i gona earn money? and we can continue askin so many questions to ourselves....
Fitness:
1st was SARS, den on to BIRD FLU and now SWINE FLU! how are we to lead a healthy life till d end if such new sickness arises? common old age sickness such as, heart attacks, diabetes, high blood pressure....how to prevent from getting them or how to cure em??
Future:
this is the part where all of us are real afraid of....sum would say, "future will come on its own, give priority to the present 1st, settle issues in the present and then worry abt the future". but isnt it beta if we prepare for the future now and be prepared for the worst case scenarios???
So u see, we dont have any fears or worries wen we are born and wen we are dead! its the in between that is a challenge! life is short, really very short! live it well, live it right!
Tuesday, April 28, 2009
Sunday, April 26, 2009
dots in life....
life at sch is getting tougher...assignments, due dates, exam marks!
oh my lord! its killing me! have not been attending classes properly, only realised wen i acutally found out that i missed out alot in juz 1 lesson! but, having too many probz, i kinda neglected it n spend more time with my friends....the uniquely bonded frens! being with them makes me forget every damn prob in my life! but ttz only wen im with them!
playing song games, charades n yea....juz being ourselves....no restrictions and having fun!! well now its now time to get back to work! i reeli got to score distinction for my remaining modules! my very close fren yoges seemed very attached to my frens den i am...each time she asks me tt she dnt wan go class n ask to slack...i wuld say no...but i feel bad! am i like controllin her? ttz wat i feel la...suddenly i wana go MIA....juz leave everyone n be with me, myself n i!
life at personal, seems more challenging.....its getting tougher day by day! y cant i juz get wat i wan in life n be happy? i have alrdy suffered so0o0 much! wen thru soo0o much of humiliation, hurts n tears! y more??? haix....is this wat we get for having so0o0o mucha hope in GOD??? or is it juz tt he is testiing our patience??? wateva it is....im happy that i got my navaz back into action!
oh my lord! its killing me! have not been attending classes properly, only realised wen i acutally found out that i missed out alot in juz 1 lesson! but, having too many probz, i kinda neglected it n spend more time with my friends....the uniquely bonded frens! being with them makes me forget every damn prob in my life! but ttz only wen im with them!
playing song games, charades n yea....juz being ourselves....no restrictions and having fun!! well now its now time to get back to work! i reeli got to score distinction for my remaining modules! my very close fren yoges seemed very attached to my frens den i am...each time she asks me tt she dnt wan go class n ask to slack...i wuld say no...but i feel bad! am i like controllin her? ttz wat i feel la...suddenly i wana go MIA....juz leave everyone n be with me, myself n i!
life at personal, seems more challenging.....its getting tougher day by day! y cant i juz get wat i wan in life n be happy? i have alrdy suffered so0o0 much! wen thru soo0o much of humiliation, hurts n tears! y more??? haix....is this wat we get for having so0o0o mucha hope in GOD??? or is it juz tt he is testiing our patience??? wateva it is....im happy that i got my navaz back into action!
Monday, April 20, 2009
reasons for my smile!
starting to blog proper now.....afta a long time!
had been really busy and tied down with so many assignments and yea!
started to play a fool, but im stopping it....i realised tt missing one lecture is like missing out an whole module!!! gosh, missed out alot juz for not goin class for a day! damn!!!
wish to tell sumthin abt my new grp of frens...here is hw we got close....
i met one of long lost fren, Jafir who is stdyin in the same sch as me...i knew him 1st wen i was in sec 3 thru ICS....yea, afta a long time we bump into each other! den he introed me to his fren, nuzmi n nowrin n den meera....n i introed my frens yoges n senthil n menaga to them....n poof! we became so0o0 close like we palaguran each other for many years!!
haha! we are always at the same port, behind our sch! its so coled the smoking area!!! im so gona die fast coz im a passive smoker!!! i take in the smoke tt my frens smoke! haha! kinda fun la! dey are juz too happening! make me laugh till i fall off 4rm whereva i sit! nt only that, but dey also are damn caring n helpful! damn happening lot la! tokin abt vadivel n doin comedys...playing charades and singing competition!
just before yoges bdae, we wen sentosa....gosh! tt was hell damn happening day!!! so0oo mucha fun! neva had tis kinda enjoyment before!!! dey are all super damn loving tt i wish we all culd stay in an house together! we are more like a family!!! no matter how sad i am, the moment i see them, i forget everyting! esp nowrin & yoges, nowrin's one gal tt can brite up ur day with her smile n yoges with her comedy!
so yea....will upload a pic of dese loosus one day! hehe! dnt u ppl dare kannu vaikuran ok!!!
haha!
had been really busy and tied down with so many assignments and yea!
started to play a fool, but im stopping it....i realised tt missing one lecture is like missing out an whole module!!! gosh, missed out alot juz for not goin class for a day! damn!!!
wish to tell sumthin abt my new grp of frens...here is hw we got close....
i met one of long lost fren, Jafir who is stdyin in the same sch as me...i knew him 1st wen i was in sec 3 thru ICS....yea, afta a long time we bump into each other! den he introed me to his fren, nuzmi n nowrin n den meera....n i introed my frens yoges n senthil n menaga to them....n poof! we became so0o0 close like we palaguran each other for many years!!
haha! we are always at the same port, behind our sch! its so coled the smoking area!!! im so gona die fast coz im a passive smoker!!! i take in the smoke tt my frens smoke! haha! kinda fun la! dey are juz too happening! make me laugh till i fall off 4rm whereva i sit! nt only that, but dey also are damn caring n helpful! damn happening lot la! tokin abt vadivel n doin comedys...playing charades and singing competition!
just before yoges bdae, we wen sentosa....gosh! tt was hell damn happening day!!! so0oo mucha fun! neva had tis kinda enjoyment before!!! dey are all super damn loving tt i wish we all culd stay in an house together! we are more like a family!!! no matter how sad i am, the moment i see them, i forget everyting! esp nowrin & yoges, nowrin's one gal tt can brite up ur day with her smile n yoges with her comedy!
so yea....will upload a pic of dese loosus one day! hehe! dnt u ppl dare kannu vaikuran ok!!!
haha!
love tis uniquely bonded frens alot!
yoges
nowrin
mena
meera
jafir
senthil
nuzmi!
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